Aug 4, 2021
At the end of every episode, I always call on all the
listeners to not let the conversation end with the episode; to take
the conversation to various circles and have more meaningful
conversations about the topics we discussed.
Today, I brought some of those conversations to light with my
little circle - my dad - Dr. Rudolf Fombad, and mom - Dr. Grace
Fombad. We got to discuss the general consensus about marriage in
our African community, which is not based on facts by the way, that
compared to our parent's generation (baby boomers and above), we
(millennials and below) don’t value marriage as much because we get
divorced easily.
Mom and dad also shared their own perspectives on marital
values through the generations based on experience, and we
collectively shared some very insightful ideas and observations on
various factors that may have influenced the outlook on marriage in
our community.
I would love to hear from you, about what you think of any of
the episodes that have impacted you in one way or the other. Again,
let's keep the conversation going and spark more uncomfortable but
necessary conversations.
[00:01 – 04:16] Opening
Segment
- I Introduce our guests, Dad & Mom
[04:16 – 34:46] The Generations & How They View
Marriage
- The generations that came before us (GI Generation, Silent
Generation, Baby Boomers, Gen X).
- The early marriage problem
- The persistency of marriage in the times of our Parents
- How Laws made it difficult to divorce
[34:46 – 59:35] More Discussions on Why Divorce was
Uncommon
- Why younger generations are quick to call it quits on
marriage
- The positive effects of women empowerment
- Learning to deal with each other weaknesses
- Tips on sustaining marriage
[59:35 - 01:21:39] Final Words and
Discussion
- Deeper tips on sustaining a marriage among Millennials and Gen
Zs.
- The Impact of the extended family on African marriages
- Getting support from the family
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"Young people must learn how to react to the emotions of
their partners in order to find solutions in their marriage." - Dr.
Grace Fombad
"In the older generation, divorce was a taboo and so most
people rather stayed in marriage or faced discrimination after
divorcing" - Dr. Radolf Fombad
"We have to quickly learn how to help one another to manage
the home and keep our marriage." - Anyoh Fombad
"Some women feel they're failures for not having a
successful marriage and that's wrong. You're valuable with or
without marriage." - Anyoh Fombad
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